Thursday, May 13, 2010

The Skin that I'm in


Skin that I'm in, originally uploaded by Cohabitating_Closet.

Tunic: DIY, from the Burdastyle batwing top pattern, extended 5 inches
Leggings: Target
Scarf (as belt): Ebay
Shoes: Ecco, thrifted

Day 4 of the Dress your best challenge: I'm dressing to flatter/draw attention to my complexion. I mean by this both the color, tone, softness/hardness of the big ole' epidermis, the biggest organ of everyone's body.
My skin was a touchy subject for a while. My mom is very fair, and as some of you may know, light skin is fetishized in most places in the world (except where folks are naturally fair). See this NYTimes article and this blog post for more info. The preponderance of skin lightening creams in the Global South/East Asia reflects deep seated prejudices about skin color, class, and beauty, but we don't have to go into that now. The key thing is that for a while I internalized some of the not so nice things said about darker skin.
In addition, until about 3 or 4 years ago, I still struggled with break outs that made my complexion less than picture perfect (I think it was pretty common in graduate school). I think it was my perfectly complexioned mother's mission in life to spend as much money possible to manufacture clearer skin. I tried almost everything under the sun, and then I sort of stopped trying. I tried to minimize stress, eat healthier, exercise, drink water, fresh produce, etc. I put almost nothing on my face now except some moisturizer and some glycolic acid (I occasionally use a mask, but only when I want Blokey to mock me. He has pretty damn perfect skin too). The most important part, however, was accepting myself as not perfect. I could spend money on pills, creams, and contraptions and possibly have marginally better skin, but instead I've just decided that this is not a big deal. It doesn't make impossibly unattractive, it just makes me "me."


DSCF4200, originally uploaded by Cohabitating_Closet.

(Lula likes to blog too, but I'm deducing from her facial expression that she prefers the scarf around the waist, not the neck)

Here's what I've figured out as being pretty awesome about my skin. It hasn't really aged since I was 16. There's a just a bit of dryness under my eyes, but I don't have crows feet, even when I smile. When I furrow my brow, the skin crinkles, it doesn't wrinkle. This rather oily, thick darker skin looks pretty good as I'm get older. My skin is also pretty well moisturized without lotion, even in the winter (even in Minnesota winters). Also, with the exception of 2 pictures, I haven't worn make up in any of my photos on this blog. While I can look better with some make up, I still think I look all right without it.
Finally, I don't have to worry about "looking too pale," which I didn't know was a problem until my fair-skinned friends explained the dilemma to me. Someone tried to do my colors once and declared that I'm one of those weirdos who can do cool and warm colors. White or cream? Both, please. Black/brights or earth tones/browns? Either works. I can wear a wide variety of colors (even if I often don't) and I think I pull them off relatively well. This blog is partly a way for me to explore colors, patterns, and non black looks, and I think I'm making good progress.

10 comments:

  1. I need to take a page out of your book, lady. I'm told constantly that I have great skin, but the breakouts drive me batso. And yet, so much in common! I seldom wear makeup, have no sun damage and few wrinkles, and look good in nearly every color. Thanks for the reminder that good skin isn't all about being pimple-free. ;)

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  2. you look fabulous in blue!! definitely your color!

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  3. 'Love this post, envy your ability to wear any colour (frankly, that counts as a superpower), enjoy that awesome batwing top, and want to steal those wicked shoes. In addition, I'm with Lula: that scarf is B.A. as a belt.

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  4. It sounds like we have similar complexions, though I am extremely pale. To quote Diane Chambers (of Cheers) "I have what the Restoration poets call alabaster skin" (read: grey). I suffered greatly with terrible skin as a teenager (somehow made the worse by the unblemished alabaster complexions of my two besties). And I still get breakouts, though I'm pretty sure I look younger than my years, despite not sleeping for all of grad school. My mother also looks young so I think I inherited both my teenage torture and my graceful aging from her.

    And I concur with all of the above--this is a fabulous colour on you and I love those shoes. Lula has an excellent expression here.

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  5. The blue definitely flatters your skin. I like the DIY top.

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  6. That is a stunning outfit--great job on the tunic!

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  7. I love this color on you! And that's some great DIY work.

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  8. This blue is absolutely radiant on you! I'm feeling you on the skin tone issues, so cheers for embracing a big part of what makes you, YOU!

    - E

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  9. It sounds like we have similar complexions, though I am extremely pale. To quote Diane Chambers (of Cheers) "I have what the Restoration poets call alabaster skin" (read: grey). I suffered greatly with terrible skin as a teenager (somehow made the worse by the unblemished alabaster complexions of my two besties). And I still get breakouts, though I'm pretty sure I look younger than my years, despite not sleeping for all of grad school. My mother also looks young so I think I inherited both my teenage torture and my graceful aging from her.

    And I concur with all of the above--this is a fabulous colour on you and I love those shoes. Lula has an excellent expression here.

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  10. you look fabulous in blue!! definitely your color!

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