tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6632064987562852587.post909007907845012613..comments2023-10-19T12:15:53.639-04:00Comments on The Cohabitating closet: More copy catting, and thoughts about not shoppingRadhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01946279879863336523noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6632064987562852587.post-3089449785810462152011-03-17T09:35:24.261-04:002011-03-17T09:35:24.261-04:00I did a full year of "no new clothes" in...I did a full year of "no new clothes" in 2009 - but I allowed myself to buy second-hand, thrift and consignment, as well as accept gifts and do swaps. I also instigated a "1 in, 1 out" rule that forced me to look at what was essential in my wardrobe and what wasn't. I became ruthless! ;)<br><br>That really helped me, and has also weaned me away from the mass consumption culture of malls and manufactured in China clothing. I love my second-hand shopping even more than I used to love looking for deals in the mall, and I prefer it over shopping in a 'real' store. <br><br>I think you should be able to replace items that are worn out. And I love Anne's analogy of WW and being on a diet and not depriving yourself. <br><br>And you look fabulous today - so long and sleek!Sheilahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07735339885677950350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6632064987562852587.post-67802905780183693512011-03-17T09:35:23.912-04:002011-03-17T09:35:23.912-04:00WooHOO! I echo Sheila's final sentence here: s...WooHOO! I echo Sheila's final sentence here: sweet ensemble and "so long and sleek"! I love the shape and length of that skirt, and I really enjoy the red belt over stripes up top. This is NOT helping me to stay off the red and black. <br><br>Also, it sounds like it's time for a small GAAD cheat. Clothes with holes in them are the perfect reason to plan for some replacement purchasing.A-Dubshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05342854659608373230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6632064987562852587.post-43973778596152101172010-11-20T18:09:58.624-05:002010-11-20T18:09:58.624-05:00I love this outfit. This is how I want to dress i...I love this outfit. This is how I want to dress in my head for work but I think I never quite pull it off: professional without being boring.<br /><br />And I second everyone's comments and encourage you to do a pre-meditated cheat. The thing is, while GAAD is a programme you took up, YOU took it up and I figure you can manage the guidelines for yourself. You know what you need. And I fully endorse replacing holy items. I hate to look shabby; it makes me feel very out of control. Weird but true.Dorky Medievalisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10315923833394951014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6632064987562852587.post-20617938282105518112010-11-18T11:29:01.639-05:002010-11-18T11:29:01.639-05:00@Anne: Yes, I am afraid to open up a big binge!
@S...@Anne: Yes, I am afraid to open up a big binge!<br />@Sheila: I think that the limits that second hand shopping allow might be a good compromise. I definitely need to practice "one in, one out" more readily.<br />@A-Dubs: Thank you. I actually had to ditch the belt at one point yesterday, but it will be replaced soon.<br />@Emily: I don't mind looking like a bum too much (grad school wasn't that long ago, and it was a way to have "cred") and I'm not that in which any GAAD community except StyleNation, but I agree that it seems reasonable to replace staples.<br />@AnnUH: Isn't it weird how we can't just control everything in our lives the way we wish? <br />@Anon: Thanks for your thoughts. I definitely am a champion at guilt! And I agree- Anne's haircut is the tops.<br />@Lyddie: Part of the reason is that I've been stressed with my writing deadlines, so I haven't allowed my self time to shop, but I realize that shopping is kind of a nice treat for myself, a way to destress and a form of recreation. I don't want to be a Shopaholic, but all the depriving can be alienating. Wah!<br />@Cynthia: I agree that it doesn't stop the shopping but it's useful in helping us think about shopping. I don't want to be shopping girl first and foremost, but there's something about acquiring new clothes that is exciting. Maybe because it's so different from all the cerebral stuff I should be doing right now?<br />@Rebecca: Good call. I do get to make my own rules. I just hope that the rules don't cancel out the benefits of said shopping diet. Thanks.Radhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01946279879863336523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6632064987562852587.post-32942538508606853702010-11-17T17:37:27.040-05:002010-11-17T17:37:27.040-05:00I really like the red belt with that outfit.
I re...I really like the red belt with that outfit.<br /><br />I remember you saying that you could make your own rules when you started the GAAD. This sounds like a great example of making your own rules, and allowing yourself to shop at a reasonable level.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08226044023829947669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6632064987562852587.post-63078481322858030032010-11-17T16:21:22.659-05:002010-11-17T16:21:22.659-05:00This is a great outfit. It's making me want t...This is a great outfit. It's making me want to pull out some red and black.<br /><br />I've been on GAAD for basically three months. It's never completely stopped me shopping. Changed what I felt I was allowed to shop for, yes. Saved me money, for sure. I sometimes think I ought to do something more like what Sheila did in '09 -- not cut out my shopping habit entirely, but change it...focus on finding those stores in Charlotte where Dr. Da of weathergeequechique is getting like new Anthropologie sweaters for $3, for instance. My sister has always been a thrifter and I have always been a "buy new because it's convenient" person. I'm kind of jealous of people who have the energy/determination/mad skillz to find great new-looking stuff for dirt cheap.Cynthiahttp://www.befabulousdaily.usnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6632064987562852587.post-65487516800925618292010-11-17T15:11:18.440-05:002010-11-17T15:11:18.440-05:00I think its amazing you've been on GAAD for th...I think its amazing you've been on GAAD for this long, and I commend you. All my attempts at staying out of stores, on a budget, not shopping... I've just been failing, repeatedly. <br /><br />Shopping has become... something bigger than I seem to be able to control. <br /><br />And when you're replacing a cardigan with holes in it, that's a bit different than buying 5 cardigans in different colors because you happen to like the style. <br /><br /><a href="http://chic-onthe-cheap.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Chic on the Cheap</a>LyddieGalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01604790644999494872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6632064987562852587.post-31539301850304330182010-11-17T13:58:15.819-05:002010-11-17T13:58:15.819-05:00Anon: Thanks! :)Anon: Thanks! :)Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18403024177515079403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6632064987562852587.post-54487471150558691532010-11-17T12:56:37.451-05:002010-11-17T12:56:37.451-05:00First, you look fabulous Rad! The red belt is perf...First, you look fabulous Rad! The red belt is perfection. Also, I'm loving Anne's 30 for 30 and new haircut. <br /><br />Like you, I've been examining my desire to buy new clothes and consumerism in general. And I've joined members of this community in looking beyond what is available in a mall. Your (as in everyone on this blog roll) thrift and swap finds, fantastic remixes, and the thought you put into the things you do purchase new are a real inspiration. Keep up the great work!<br /><br />Rad- It's okay to replace something beyond repair, especially when you'll wear it until needs be replaced again. I get the guilt, though.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6632064987562852587.post-86098861406456650612010-11-17T12:34:19.129-05:002010-11-17T12:34:19.129-05:00You look great! Love detailing down the front of t...You look great! Love detailing down the front of the cardigan and the pop of red. I totally understand the other forms of stress, even when things are going to plan. Good luck plus can't wait to see what you buy!Ann Underfunded Humanityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08179863745032236339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6632064987562852587.post-62941553406409775282010-11-17T12:09:52.901-05:002010-11-17T12:09:52.901-05:00I know nothing, but I really and truly believe tha...I know nothing, but I really and truly believe that buying to replace items that are falling apart and/or making you look like a bum, is a total acceptable way to GAAD, and in no way does it seem like a cheat to me. But again, I do not know the GAAD community ethos quite so well as a participant would.Emily Kennedyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13988003316018583580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6632064987562852587.post-67716057649948259282010-11-17T10:54:04.353-05:002010-11-17T10:54:04.353-05:00WooHOO! I echo Sheila's final sentence here: s...WooHOO! I echo Sheila's final sentence here: sweet ensemble and "so long and sleek"! I love the shape and length of that skirt, and I really enjoy the red belt over stripes up top. This is NOT helping me to stay off the red and black. <br /><br />Also, it sounds like it's time for a small GAAD cheat. Clothes with holes in them are the perfect reason to plan for some replacement purchasing.Academic Writer (a.k.a. A-Dubs)https://www.blogger.com/profile/05342854659608373230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6632064987562852587.post-56698402825644024602010-11-17T10:42:53.800-05:002010-11-17T10:42:53.800-05:00I did a full year of "no new clothes" in...I did a full year of "no new clothes" in 2009 - but I allowed myself to buy second-hand, thrift and consignment, as well as accept gifts and do swaps. I also instigated a "1 in, 1 out" rule that forced me to look at what was essential in my wardrobe and what wasn't. I became ruthless! ;)<br /><br />That really helped me, and has also weaned me away from the mass consumption culture of malls and manufactured in China clothing. I love my second-hand shopping even more than I used to love looking for deals in the mall, and I prefer it over shopping in a 'real' store. <br /><br />I think you should be able to replace items that are worn out. And I love Anne's analogy of WW and being on a diet and not depriving yourself. <br /><br />And you look fabulous today - so long and sleek!Sheilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07735339885677950350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6632064987562852587.post-52444522216845754132010-11-17T10:13:05.224-05:002010-11-17T10:13:05.224-05:00Rad, I definitely understand the feeling you get w...Rad, I definitely understand the feeling you get when you buy something new. I like Cynthia's thought of comparing this to an actual diet, and when you're too strict on those types of diets, it almost always ends up in binging and gaining a lot of that weight right back. As a member of Weight Watchers for the past 7 years, I've been through that cycle so many times. Now, rather than being totally strict 100% of the time, I just let myself eat more than I should from time to time, or take a couple days off from the gym, and wouldn't you know, I haven't gained any weight and I haven't wanted to just stop dieting/exercising all together.<br /><br />I think the same could definitely happen when you all get off of GAAD, so giving in here and there in a way that's thought out and pre-planned might not be a bad idea. And really, you shouldn't be wearing clothes with holes in them. I think it's okay to replace stuff like that.Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18403024177515079403noreply@blogger.com